Breaking the Ice When You Meet Your Online Date

If you’ve been exchanging emails with someone you met online dating you already have formed some impressions of their personality and interests. At your first face to face meeting you’ll probably both be feeling a little self-conscious, so here are a few pointers that might help to get you through that first few minutes.

  • Talking about the weather or how you travelled to the meeting place might fill up an awkward silence, but they’re fairly predictable topics and won’t lead you very far. Try to think of something that’s a bit more individual without being too zany.
  • Asking questions that can be answered with a simple “no” or “yes” may bring the conversation comes to an awkward standstill. Phrase your own questions so that they invite a lengthier reply, and be ready to elaborate a little when you’re asked a simple question.
  • A question like “How has your day been?” is friendly and generous. It invites them to talk about themselves and what’s important in their life yet is not too pushy or probing. Their response gives you a chance to exercise your listening skills and find a topic that can move the conversation forward.

A couple of questions that are open-ended without being too personal or intrusive are all you need to set the ball rolling. By asking an intelligent question and really listening to your date’s answer, you’ll help to start a conversation that flows naturally and gains its own momentum, and you could soon be nattering away like old friends.

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