The First Few Dates – Keeping up the Momentum

When you’re a member of Antipodate and are considering that crucial first date with someone you’ve met online, it can be tempting to want to pull out all the stops and make the first date an unforgettable experience. But before you pick up the phone and make a reservation at the most fashionable restaurant in town, or book a ride in a hot air balloon, take a minute or two to think this through.

Unless you have a limitless supply of funds and/or imagination, your subsequent dates may be a little less special than your first date. Put yourself in your date’s shoes and think about things from another perspective: if the second date is a more low-key event, it could feel like a let down after the excitement or glamour of the first date.

Of course, if a bond develops between you and you start dating regularly, the pleasure you take in each other’s company will make the date venue irrelevant. Through those first three or four dates it’s important to try to maintain a positive momentum, with the tone of each occasion on a rising note. If you’ve started at the top (or over the top) with the first date, you haven’t got anywhere to go!

So when you’re planning to ask someone out, think a little further ahead than the first date. If you made the first date an unbelievably memorable and unique occasion, what will you do for an encore?

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