The First Online Dating Communication - Emails that Work

A personal profile on Antipodate has taken your eye, and you want to show that you’re interested. Here’s how to create a first email that has the desired effect: to invite the person to view your profile, and encourage them to reply.

  • Just like the description of yourself that you’ve created for your personal profile, your first email should be composed with correct grammar, spelling and punctuation, and have a positive, friendly and cheerful tone.
  • It’s important to show that you’re genuinely interested in getting to know the person. If there’s something in their personal profile that strikes you, ask a question about it. The question can be phrased so as to encourage a reply, but not just a “yes” or “no” answer. For instance, if the person’s profile mentions an interest in musical movies, ask what their favourite musical is rather than whether they have seen a particular movie. Asking about a person’s interests shows that you’re a listener, and also indicates that your email is not just a generic enquiry that you might have sent to dozens of people.
  • Less is more. A brief email encourages a speedy response, while a long email might be put to one side by a busy person and the momentum will be lost.

If you take care to compose an email that’s short, sweet and specific, you’ll be well on your way to starting a dialogue that leads … who knows where?

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