The first date – Managing your Expectations

Most singles have an idea of the perfect person they’d love to meet and date and have a relationship with. While it’s great to have this ideal person as a standard to measure potential candidates against, beware of judging your dates too harshly and too quickly.

First dates are fairly nerve-wracking occasions for most of us, and even the most confident people will admit to twinges of unease. It’s difficult to be ourselves and act naturally, while at the same time putting our best foot forward and impressing our date. It’s possible your date might arrive at the venue a little late because of a traffic jam, or upset her coffee cup over the café table, or burble on a bit about his job. Your ideal date would never commit any of these sins, but it’s a good idea to make allowances for first date nerves and don’t rule out a candidate too soon.

The pace of life in the twenty first century has led us to be impatient and demanding, to expect results that are both quick and perfect. Expecting perfection right now is fine if you’re looking to buy a new laptop, but forming relationships with real people is more complicated. Before rejecting a candidate outright on the basis of a first date, remember that it may take a little time for a bond to develop. It’s also worth considering the possibility of opting for less than one hundred percent of your requirements being met – because after all, nobody is perfect.

Other Blog Posts

Internet dating sites and speed dating events help to take some of the guesswork and uncertainty out of the dating game. A personal profile on an Internet dating site contains all sorts of information, including photographs, to help you choose members you’re interested in getting to know. You can even opt to view candidates only in a specific age group – and they don’t have to be in your age group. Many individuals are more comfortable with an older or younger age group when it comes to dating and even socialising in general.

Read more...

As an antipodean living in the UK you’ve had to adjust to different ways of doing things in your adopted country: not just big-scale changes like tax systems, health care, and banking methods, but also customs, practices and unwritten rules that you find in the workplace. You’re probably getting used to British foods (or having some of your favourite staples like pineapple lumps, Vegemite or Pecks Anchovette sent over from New Zealand, Australia or South Africa). If this is your first Christmas as an expat in the UK, prepare yourself for a few taste surprises that are peculiar to the festive season.

Read more...

If you’re an expat about to experience your first Christmas in the UK, it’s helpful to be prepared for some of the special features of a northern hemisphere Christmas.

Read more...

Ask any writer how many drafts they go through for a given piece of work and the answer will stun you. They'll tell you that attaining that perfect prose takes time and patience, which is something that you should bear in mind when putting together your online dating profile. So how can you make your profile stand out from rest?

Read more...

When you’re living far from your homeland, it’s great to immerse yourself in an unfamiliar culture and learn about foreign customs and traditions. If you come from the antipodes and this is your first Christmas in the UK, be prepared for some culture shock - or at least a little surprise. Spend an hour or two one Thursday evening in December in Oxford Street W1 and you’ll see how seriously the Brits take their Christmas celebrations!

Read more...

Christmas is a special time of year and usually comes with the additional bonus of a few days free from work responsibilities. If you and your date are spending your first Christmas together, why not take advantage of the free time by travelling a little further during the holiday period?

Read more...

If you’re an expat living in the UK and spending long hours in the office, this is a gentle reminder that Christmas is coming. Soon. First, don’t forget to get those Christmas cards and presents in the post soon, so that those at home get their greetings and gifts before the holidays. And second, what are you going to do on Christmas day?

Read more...

As if there weren’t enough interesting and exciting places to take your date in the UK, along comes Christmas and your choice is even wider! Read on for some very special dating venues for December.

Read more...

When you’re an expat new to the UK, the cold climate is just one of the things you’ll be adapting to. If you’ve joined Antipodate or enjoyed some speed dating events, it’s sensible to think about the climate and weather before you arrange a winter time date.

Read more...

Being far from your partner is not an ideal situation, but it is possible to keep the romance of a long distance relationship alive with some effort and a few handy tips.

Read more...

If you’re new in London or the UK, meeting someone you can share experiences with can make you feel much more welcome so the chances are you’re keen to meet someone fast. The old fashioned ways of meeting people – through friends and family, in the workplace or at evening classes – can be slow or not available to you if you’re in a new country. Speed dating might be just what you need to speed up the process.

Read more...

Photos are what entice online dating site members to take the time to read your profile and find out more about you, so they should be chosen with care. It’s a great idea to take some fresh photos for the purpose, but what sort of photos should you take? Here are some tips to help...

Read more...

One of the advantages of online dating is that it gives you a chance to attract a number of potential partners. The downside of this is that they won’t all have that certain something that sparks your interest, so you’ll have to let some candidates down. The way you let someone down without hurting their feelings depends on how much contact you’ve had before you come to the decision that they are unsuitable.

Read more...

If you’ve met someone online on Antipodate, you might be wondering when and how you should be starting to introduce your new friend to your friends and family. There’s no straightforward answer to that question, but here are a few points worth considering...

Read more...


Sending Data...
home